Updated: Sep 8, 2019
A few years ago, there was a short-lived reality show on TV called "True Beauty." I am a sucker for reality television, and this one had a really interesting twist, one that changed my life. There were 10 contestants, 5 women and 5 men, Vanessa Lachey was the host. The premise of the show was that the 10 contestants were competing to be named the "Face of Vegas". They were to live together in a Vegas hotel and compete/be eliminated until a winner was chosen. The contestants thought that the competition was all about their outward beauty, but, because it was a reality show, there was of course another side to what they were being judged on. Throughout the competition, they were being secretly filmed and tested to see if they were compassionate, generous and thoughtful, truly beautiful people. I thought to myself, how would I feel if every night, I laid in bed and watched back secret footage of how I had behaved during the day? How did I treat the barrista at the coffee shop? Was I engaging and kind or was I dismissive and self-absorbed. Did I hold the door for someone else or the mom with a stroller and a toddler? Did I take the time to notice if someone needed help and then help them? Did I smile at someone who looked like they were having a bad day or did I just move through my day being not paying attention to those around me? It is humbling to think back on your actions through this lens. This nightly footage has helped me to slow down. To think about how I want to be perceived before reacting. To be aware of people and situations around me. While something like a smile may seem small and unimportant, you never know what it could mean to someone else. Maybe I am just a cheeseball. What do you think?